Ok so I went to the yearly meeting over at Freedom Elementary to see Alex's progress and his "issues". Alex is actually working with the IPAD which is great, and means that I will have to invest in one. He is great with puzzles and physical activities.
But.. surprise surprise Alex is very resistant to things that don't interest him. If he is willing to do something then there is the chance to improve him in that particular activity, if he is not, then there is no way that you will get him to do it. And he has the attitude to do what he wants to do when ever he feels like doing it, there is no particular time that you can get him to do it, is when ever he wants, and he will get what he wants at whatever cost, or how loud his tantrums are.
Another thing that his teacher asked and I quote "you should get him tested for super human qualities"... huh? well, Alex is extremely strong for his age, other autistic kids you can guide their hands and no matter how resistant they are you will always be stronger than they are... not Alex, Alex can get the biggest man tired, because he is extremely strong, is pretty incredible. I got that from when he was like 1 1/2 when I found him holding a small plasma tv up because it was falling on him.... he was just there holding it up, he couldn't even walk at the time, he could stand holding on to things... but not walking completely.. so I know for a fact that he is very strong for his age. And to get him to do something the hard way is impossible because you are not able to force him.
So like my mother says, leave the teacher to teach and you are the one who educates him. And I realized something, everything that Alex has been able to do, is because I have fought him all the way, other wise he wouldn't do ... anything... And I am extremely forceful with him because I want him to be able to do the basic stuff without depending on others to do them, and for that I have had to force him, not physically, I understand that physically I can't force him because now is an issue, but when he gets older is going to be a problem. I am 5 ft, Alex is going to be at least 6f taller than me by the age of 15... so I know that I will not be able to match him physically in the future so I try to force him to do stuff by nagging him, by repeating everything 100 thousand times and be on top of him 24/7.... but that is my job, and I know he learns that way, but is much difficult with teachers and OP therapist and everyone else because they don't have the time, but I do... and I will get him to accept the fact that he is not going to be able to do everything he wants when he wants it, because that is not how life works, but I can't do that in a day, his only 5, like I told the teacher, maybe by the age of 10 he'll get it, but not right now.
Another thing... they haven't really found anything that interests him, nor is he a child that asks for much. Yeah if he wants to play or for you to tickle him, he'll get out of his world long enough to enjoy it, but other wise you can leave Alex is a room with everything he needs and he will not bother you... at all... and that worries the teachers, because there is not really anything that gets his attention real well, except being outside. And I told the teachers and OP and speech therapist, well, maybe that is what he is trying to tell us, his interest has to be an activity outside, but until we find what it is, he just likes to be outside and be able to be free....
He has a very difficult road ahead of him... but I can get him there.