Monday, July 22, 2013

Living with Autsim: We went tot he Zoo!!!

Living with Autsim: We went tot he Zoo!!!: So we decided sense the his school teacher wants to do a field trip this new school year to do a test run and go the Zoo our selfs first. ...

We went tot he Zoo!!!

So we decided sense the his school teacher wants to do a field trip this new school year to do a test run and go the Zoo our selfs first. And let me tell you I though we were going to have to rent a cart, we thought it was going to be a horrific and screaming experience. But to our wonderful surprise his natural curiosity came out and he wanted to look at anything and everything, he loved the fishes and the big tanks:
He loved the loved the Seal and her tricks, he enjoyed that very much.
We even had issues taking him away from there cause he enjoyed it so much. He looked at the turtles:
All in all, we had a great day, we walked the whole entire park for 2 hours, he never complained about being tired, ever, we even got on a carousel at the end of the park ... twice! we made him watch first just in case and he wanted to do it so we did it. He never cease to amaze me...

Thursday, July 11, 2013

Living with Autsim: Potty Training at 6....

Living with Autsim: Potty Training at 6....: Now I knew this was going to be challenging, just like everything else he achieves, a challenge that its a necessity so the rest of the worl...

Potty Training at 6....

Now I knew this was going to be challenging, just like everything else he achieves, a challenge that its a necessity so the rest of the world doesn't look at him like a if he was going to die a horrible and painful death and am just prolonging it ..... yeah that is how I got looked at the doctors the last time.... don't wanna go into it cause its all negative and i don't need that... so it started as how I expected it, screaming, fighting, more screaming, and a lot more fighting.... it was really hard, dragging him to the toilet, making him sit there, we got to sit there 10 to 20 minutes after being pumped up with milk so he can "go"... not just sitting, but screaming and constantly telling him to stay put, to sit down and we both ending up tired and just plain angry, after 20 minutes and lots of screaming and crying, he would just quietly go and that would be the end of it..... and I would just end up looking and feeling like the horrible bitch of the south .... anyways, after four days and with prompting, he goes just fine, of course you have to let him know he has to go, otherwise he would just go on himself... now he he can go between 40 min to an hour without having to go. So HEY! this horrible bitch of the south actually got him to do it in 4 freaking days!!!! YAY!!!!! am actually excited for me and him, him cause eventually he will be able to just go to the park and not have kids stare at him or hurry away cause he went in his diaper... and me because I fucking made it without a fucking cigarette!!!!!! ok just half a cig but still is an accomplishment for a smoker....
Anyways, we still have a long way to go, he only does #1 he is too weird out for #2 still, which is fine, i wasn't expecting a miracle here... am realistic  and a i know when to push and when not to... anyways, we made a break through, and the plus of all this, he sleeps like the dead, for some reason all this going to the bathroom just makes him tired lol.

Monday, June 10, 2013

Living with Autsim: Oh Summer...

Living with Autsim: Oh Summer...: Here we go, another summer. Except is not summer yet "officially" anyways, here we have spring, unlike FL lol, so it rains a lot a...

Oh Summer...

Here we go, another summer. Except is not summer yet "officially" anyways, here we have spring, unlike FL lol, so it rains a lot and there are plenty of storms. And Alex can't go outside every day and play :( so he decides to drive everyone crazy or find stuff to do.. except you never know what he is going to do, he might start playing with pots and pans, he might aligned all his trucks in his room, he might make me change his dvd 100 times today so he can walk out of the room and go to another to watch his IPAD O-o.. which drives me insane. There has been a few days that he has gone out side:



 He is most happy when he is outside, he loves to play with water, he loves to wonder (he has to be watched at all times), he loves to follow butterflies, he loves when dad grabs his guitar and lets him play with the strings.... OH summer, when we also have the meltdowns and the lack of structure, the lack of schedule and the anxiety ... the fear that he will forget everything that he has learned, that he stops saying his abc's and stops repeating words... *sigh* you just help him along and remind him every day, and hope that he doesn't take 5 steps back, and that he continues to stay happy.

Thursday, March 28, 2013

Living with Autsim: Saying his colors!!

Living with Autsim: Saying his colors!!: So we had a bad night the night before last. He woke up screaming and didn't really calm down until an hour later when he fell asleep. W...

Saying his colors!!

So we had a bad night the night before last. He woke up screaming and didn't really calm down until an hour later when he fell asleep. When he woke up yesterday morning and we were getting dressed I told him that he was going to wear green... then he started murmuring something, and I am trying to get his jeans on and he looks at me and starts saying "green" "white" "blue" but he said kind of like boo but it was close enough also "pink" which he enjoys saying more than the other colors, and also "purple" and "black".

So this morning I knew I had some cards so when he was ready i would work on it with him, and I showed him and he looked at me and knew what they were so instead of saying it after me, he grabbed them from me and sat on the floor in his room and started putting them in order and repeating them, you have to listen carefully cause he still saying it a little bit rough around the edges lol



And for some reason, he says Pink, and I didn't have any pink lol he likes saying it I think.
The point is, for a child that wasn't saying anything a month ago, his doing great, first he started spelling, then he started saying the abc's and now he is saying his colors... am a proud mommy of an autistic child :)

Sunday, March 24, 2013

Living with Autsim: Abc's and Ipad

Living with Autsim: Abc's and Ipad: Alex has made great progress in school and at home. The teacher has been concentrating in letters and words with him because he spelled &quo...

Abc's and Ipad

Alex has made great progress in school and at home. The teacher has been concentrating in letters and words with him because he spelled "Winnie the Pooh" last month, she scrambled the letters to see if he would do it again, and of course he did.
So lately she has been singing him the abc's and his been pretty good at continuing when she stops, she even made a video of it and showed it to me. So I came home, and I thought, how can I make it better, how can I encourage him to keep going. Well, the Ipad has helped a lot already so it only made sense that I would keep going with it. But I didn't want to give him anything boring cause otherwise he would not follow along with it. So I downloaded an app that signs the abc's, which he loves music so it only made sense.

Two days later and Alex is singing the abc's!!! his only doing like the first half of it lol but he is totally responding to it and he finds it fun!

And when grandma insisted he do it again, he told her no. So not only do we get him to sing the abc's but his interacting with her by responding to her prompting lol.

Wednesday, February 27, 2013

"Winnie The Pooh"

I just got an e-mail from Alex's teacher... She sent me a picture of the words "Winnie The Pooh" and told me that my son had spelled it, there was a letter missing, so he improvised. And only a parent of an Autistic child would know how great and how proud we feel right now.
From a baby who stopped making eye contact, who would scream bloody murder in crowds, from being completely out of control, to now following directions, listening when you speak, to spelling!! Even tho his non verbal (we totally think it's there, but it hasn't clicked yet or his too lazy to speak) this is a huge break through for him, because we can use that as a form of communication for him .
This totally made my day!

Monday, February 25, 2013

7 Tips on being friends with a special needs parent!

Often, I have noticed a hesitation or awkwardness on the part of friends who just don't know what to say or do. I know they care. And I know they mean well. They are, quite simply, at a loss.

Here is what I would like to say to them and others like them, if they were to ask how to be a friend to a special-needs parent:


1. You will probably look up the child's condition online to learn more about it. That's awesome. But try to remember that no condition has identical characteristics. For example, many people are afraid of upsetting an autistic child by touching him. But my son is a complete snuggle-bug. He, like every other person on the planet, is an individual. By all means, ask us about our kids. Feel free to ask, "Hey, I've read some have issues with such-and-such. Does she?" I promise you, we're happy to talk about it. We need to talk about it. And, for a period of time, it may be all we talk about. Try not to resent that. We'll adjust. But we need a little time and a lot of patience.

2. Fight the urge to avoid interacting with our children. If you are nervous about how to hold our children or how to talk to/play with them, tell us. We'll help you. I'm happy to advise someone how to gain my son's attention. It's a wonderful thing to me when others see what I see in him, love him, and have fun with him.

3. Remember that every mother's heart is the same. I don't care what condition a baby is born with, his mama needs to hear how very precious he is. Our special-needs children are...children. They might be different than the other children, but they still do adorable things. And, yes, just like every mama who ever was, we have a desperate need to regale you with those stories. Fawn and coo and pretend to marvel over our kids the same way you would with any others.

4. If you have children, don't leave them unprepared for meeting ours. Children are curious about differences. It's okay to explain it to them. And they aren't being bad if they ask an honest question. How else will they learn? Help them to put themselves into the special-needs child's shoes. People say that children are cruel. But, in my experience, they can show great compassion when they understand the other child's differences and are encouraged to adjust their play.

5. Understand that parents of special-needs kids are inundated with unsolicited advice. Believe me, our kids have a plethora of specialists. We don't need any more. What we want from you is friendship.

6. Know that we will never again be the same person you first befriended. Our interests, moods, and opinions very likely have changed. We are still ourselves, yet we are different. Love us anyway.

7. Never say, "I'm sorry". We are not ashamed of or disappointed in our children. We love them. And they are a source of joy for us. "I'm sorry" implies something bad has happened. But we do not regret their lives. Neither should you.

Sunday, February 17, 2013

Losing a tooth....

Well, my five year old lost a tooth. He woke up one day and he was bleed OMG from that tooth and he kept moving it, I pressed a kitchen towel to it to stop the bleeding and eventually distracted him enough to stop touching it.... Which is a pain because once he gets his mind to something is like telling a hound dog to stop tracking... So I let it go, the next day I noticed in the morning that he had lost the tooth, i don't know if he took it out or he swallowed it... 😒 But I know it didn't come out (if you know what I mean) and the thing is, he didn't make a sound, the blood bordered him, but not the loose tooth sensation which I remembered being as being annoying. Anyways, in the picture you can already tell that he already has the other one lined up .... Next horror is .... The dentist!!!!!